When I worked for an organisation I used to love getting to Friday night. The weekend was next. I knew I would get two days to myself when I could choose exactly what I wanted to do. Now I run my own spiritual business. And things have changed.
Of course anyone running their own business soon learns that you have to work when your customers are free to visit you. But I guess I didn’t really think about that when I moved into my mediumship. I think I had an idea that my work would be mainly in churches and centres. Those were the places I expected people to go for messages. So mostly nights of work, I thought. Until I started to be asked to do private readings. Then I found that most people were only really available at the weekend. If I wanted to do their readings for them I would have to shift my expectations of my own weekend.
Actually it was something that seemed to fit quite naturally for a lot of reasons. Especially since the weekend was the time I had the most childcare available to me. At the least cost because my family could do it. Getting any kind of business venture off the ground costs quite a bit in the early stages so not paying childcare was a big consideration. I also had to adjust my week. It was rather easy to find I had worked straight through seven or ten days because I wasn’t used to taking time off during the week. Eventually I started to carve out a space in the week that was a regular weekend. But I had to fight hard to keep the time free too.
Eventually I settled into a more fluid pattern. I work some weekends and not others. And I work Monday to Friday some weeks and not others. I identify enough days to be filled with work. And I look forward to the weekend I have built in for myself. Finally, on my days off I make sure I relax. Doing all of the stuff I normally would on my weekends. After all, I know a life-work balance is important for my wellbeing. And my work!
Day 834 of my blogging challenge
I’ve always had a struggle to get my life in balance. I tend to throw myself into work and forget to play. There always seems to be more to do. Being able to step back has been one of my big lessons.
I know that I enjoy being occupied. Being busy is normal for me. But I also know that when I get focused on something stepping back and stepping out can be hard. Because I want to get things done. I want to achieve what I’ve set out to do. Part of it is my own impatience at the slow way energy manifests into the physical world. Plus the urgency of wanting to help everyone as much as I possibly can. Added to a strong work ethic that came from my parents. Quite a mix really. So I have to be careful. Because if I overdo it I find myself in a struggle to stop doing. It’s like I can’t slow down.
I’m sure I’m not the only person who deals with this challenge. There are lots of us around. We tend to keep going long past the point of exhaustion. I am connected with many business people who have the same struggle. Working out when to stop indulging one of my passions and swapping to another. But it’s important to find that balance. Keeping going isn’t sensible for my mind or body. Or my business. So I am practicing slowing down. Making it easy for myself. Giving myself opportunities to play, relax or rest. It all ties in with placing value on myself. Stepping back for a while shows me that I am worth time and energy too. It also allows me to find a balance across all aspects of my life.
There is no struggle when I am prepared to give to myself. Being at peace with time for me and time for everyone else life becomes very much easier. Today I’m taking time for me. Are you?
Day 620 of my blogging challenge
This is my third day away from work. A step back from the Spirit World to dedicate time to myself and my loved ones.
I know how easy it to be focused completely on what I do for the Spirit World. Especially as I’ve found my passion for this work. I love what I do so it’s not easy at times to step back. Being dedicated to work is something I know I share with many other people who have found their life’s work. However it comes with a pitfall. A great big trap. I can be so much in the service of others who are strangers that I forget the people I live with. Today I took the opportunity to spend time with my daughter. Away from the topics we often talk about. Because she is fascinated by the Spirit World too. Also away from all of the normal college and education stuff that fills our lives right now.
So we spent our time together planning our summer break and making a list of all the places that would be exciting to visit. I don’t know if we will get to them all. That’s the thing about being dedicated to a cause, a life style or a way of being. The focus can be so narrow that other things fall by the wayside. Yet being dedicated also creates a strong energy that flows through my life. It’s a foundation stone of how I live. I feel that I have to be dedicated to more than one focus point so that I achieve some life-work balance. As in everything about life choices the best way forward is to balance my requirements with those of others. Something my Guides certainly understand and respect. If I haven’t taken time off it’s funny how they will always arrange it for me.
After all, my life is enriched by my connection to my family. So ensuring that I dedicate time to be with them, or by myself, and away from work is the way to give me the best of both worlds. A home life of contentment. And work I am delighted to do.
Day 553 of my blogging challenge