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Lighting the shadows

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imageShadows. We all have to work with situations that we think are black and white but often turn out to be anything other than clear cut. There is a shadow area where we can get lost in a loop of  misunderstanding, half truths and little or no reliable information. Bringing a beam of light into the shadow areas, lighting up the issues and making a more informed decision pushes the shadow choices away. What do I mean?

I have a situation that I would like to respond to from a spiritual perspective. I want to offer all of the participants unconditional love myself included. I would like my thoughts, words and actions to bring the light of truth to the issues. I don’t want to cause hurt or harm but if I take no action then I will be the one hurt or harmed. So how do I turn this around? How do I move out of the grey areas by taking the spiritual way? It always helps me to remove situations from the personal to the objective as much as possible. That way the drama that is being enacted won’t necessarily suck me in. Of course I’m human so my feelings and thoughts are going to be an important part of how I am going to respond. However, when I get stuck in cloudy energy I always ask my Guides to help me. Their help can light up the situation for me. It can push back the shadows and lighten me too.

One of the ways my Guides work with me, through events that I might react to strongly, is to help me recognise when something is about to happen. They boost my intuition or give me more signs that I need to be mindful of my energy field. They also make sure that I get extra healing energy downloaded ready for me to be boosted through any troubles. When something happens – say someone attacks, disrespects or is trying to trick me – they also send me signals too. I call them my confirmations. If something is confirmed three times I stop trying to work out why & how and start trying to sort out what I want to do. It’s important for me to to meet negativity with positivity. I want to shine my light brighter to show that we can rise above our impulsive aggression. So my Guides are also there to encourage me to find a positive solution to any situation.

If I need a direct message they will make sure I get one. If I consult my oracle cards they will show me what strength I can use, an attitude to practice or remind me that a peaceful heart is worth more than any amount of gold. They will also make sure I am reminded of that truth – what you give out you get back. In the shadows it’s easy to forget that all the negatives you give out will return to you one by one, magnified and in unexpected ways. The light path is all about recognising that truth and being determined not to slide into the shadows again. It isn’t cowardice or fear or weak to turn the other cheek. Especially if you have a strong jaw. You are saving yourself untold future misery instead.

So if someone or something is casting a shadow over you don’t give them or the situation any of your light. Don’t dim yourself. Keep shining as brightly as possible. In the end your light will always chase the shadows further away.

Day 100 of my blogging challenge.

Fly free – Letting Loved ones go

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imagePart of my work is about letting go. Helping people to send their loved ones on a new journey down a road that we can’t travel with them. Encouraging someone to fly free in one way or another. In my last post I shared some of my poetry, written to help me to release feelings that challenged me in some way. Poems about my Mum, Dad and daughter. I miss my Mum & Dad being here on the Earth with me. I’m sure they could offer me support about being a parent and having to push my child out of the nest. Each day of her life from babyhood she is moving a step closer to independence, to her own life choices, to making her life what she wishes for herself. She has to fly for herself. She has to be free. In the same way that my parents had to ensure I found my own freedom I have to let her go bit by bit.

There have been times when I wanted so much to pick up the phone to my Mum and ask what do I do now. Or see my Dad who always made me feel like I was still his little girl. The have both joined the rest of the family in the Spirit World and others have followed them since. We have to let our loved ones pass away. In fact we have no choice. It just happens, often when we feel least prepared for it to do so. We wish we had time to say one more thing, ask one more question or do something to show our love once more. We want to hold them close to us for as long as possible. We sometimes cling to our last conversation, last sighting, last moments. As if we can hold back the realisation that our world has changed forever.

Life does change though. In our beginning is written our ending. The door to the Spirit World is one we must all pass through. I talk about the Spirit World, bring messages from that world and give evidence from the Spirits who speak to me so that people can understand that there is another life, a new journey and a return to all of our loved ones. On this side of life we are setting our loved ones free not to an empty, cold place or to non-exisitance but to a vibrant and loving new life. And we will be joining them when it’s our turn to walk through that door. I love the quote by Paulo Coehlo

If you love someone, you must be prepared to set them free.

Sending our loved ones off with our blessing that they step joyfully into their new lives is a wonderful gift we can give them. We may be overwhelmed by our own grief at their passing but we can wish them a good journey.

Releasing them to the Spirit World can have surprising results. It is wonderful to talk to people who have been able to sense the presence of their loved ones, or get a sign or even a message. In my case I found that my Mum was working with me as a Guide. So I still have the loving connection with her that means I know when each person I care about is safe home in the Spirit World. I get the ‘gossip’ about what they are doing now as if they are still here on Earth. Our loving connections continue. When I was writing my poetry one of the things I focused on was what I loved about my Mum & Dad, as well as the good memories of precious moments, the laughter and the encouragement they gave me. I’m not a perfect person – neither were they – but some of my good bits come directly from the freedom they gave me. They got me out of the nest, flying free and making my life for myself.

So let yourself fly free, let your loved ones do so to. Remember the wonderful times you shared. The love isn’t over. You will meet up again but for now it’s time to journey on different paths.
Day 97 of my blogging challenge.

Poetry brings peace

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imageOne of the things that I do is write poetry. It’s something I’ve done for as long as I can remember. I love words (I get to use them a lot, lol) and, before my writers block, enjoyed filling notebooks with poems, song lyrics, stories and reflections. Writing things down has also been my way of moving stuck feelings out of my system. There is something freeing in letting the words describe how I feel then letting the written page go. I’m not surprised that my Guides work with me through writing as well as speaking. Or that they keep encouraging me to write, write, write.

I don’t often share my poetry. I’m not sure why. So for my blog today I want to post some of the pieces that brought me peace when I wrote them. They helped me to express feelings I needed to acknowledge and they inspired me to keep moving forward. I have no idea if the poetry is ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and really don’t care. They are here to encourage you to write too. Whatever you are feeling help yourself to get it out of your system by writing it down. If you find you can’t express what you want to say find a piece of poetry that says it for you. Keep that poem with you, read it out loud as many times as it takes and let your feelings flow. Find the peace that comes from knowing how you feel, being OK to express it and moving on when that feeling has passed.

Written in August 2008 this is a piece about my Mum that was written as I headed towards the first anniversary of my Dad’s death. He had loved her so much & couldn’t wait to go to her in the Spirit World.

At times with Mum I was so cross

Not realising the scale of loss

Of one who’s love was ever clear

Though having me cost her dear.

Now I myself become a mother

I realise something about the other,

Who held me close and dried my tears

was there to deal with all my fears.

She wasn’t perfect, far from it,

But never faltered, not a bit,

In giving me the best of care

And always trying to be there.

Niw she rests in a higher place

And how I miss her dear face.

But I am strong and I can see

Because of what she gave to me

She made her kiss something I can bear

Until at last I join her there.

This is one I wrote about my daughter in March 2007 when I was learning about our past lives together.

A smile. A giggle.

A laughing eye.

How the world looks when a child is nigh.

A tear. A frown.

A moment feeling down.

Little Miss Sunshine. Little Miss Showers.

These are the ways we pass the hours.

A part of me but Spirit transcending

Our time on Earth is always ending.

Joy, delight, a choice made

A soul returning, a debt repaid.

A shining light to guide the way,

A warm cuddle on a rainy day.

Before life began

We chose each other

And I am blessed to be your mother.

If I have inspired you to write something – a poem, a few words or more – please share it in the comments. I would be delighted to read your reflections.
Day 96 of my blogging challenge.

Friends: Fair-weather or Forever

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imageOne of the topics I’m often asked about is friends, friendships and spirituality. People frequently find that as they discover their spiritual side or are on their spiritual journey the people they mix with change. Some friends drift away, new friends arrive and there is a significant change in how we feel about the people we call friends. This process can be upsetting, refreshing, challenging or exciting. It can be confusing that a long held friendship suddenly fades. Or that someone who is an aquaintance feels more of a familiar friend than a once well known friend.

It can be hard to know what these changes are about. It can be harder to accept that the friendship is on the wane or even over completely. We want certainty in our lives. Most of us prefer predictable patterns than outright spontaneity. Our friendships form a part of our comfort zone. Like a warm security blanket knowing that the same people are going to be in our lives can somehow protect us from feeling alone or abandoned. As humans we have a great need for community. So we tend to hold onto our friends though all sorts of situations & experiences. Only if something major happens do we give up on the friendship.

So when I started to tell people I was developing my mediumship it soon became clear that some of my friends couldn’t handle that part of my life. Whether through fear, religious beliefs, disbelief or reluctance to be open minded those people drifted away. One or two even left very abruptly. I asked my Guides why this should be so. What had I done for them to want to unfriend me? With much loving kindness my Guides explained  that I had started on a journey that not everyone would be able to share or understand. We each have to choose the connections we keep in this life. But the choice goes both ways. It isn’t possible to keep someone who doesn’t want to be your friend. And no matter how much time, energy and commitment you give to the friendship if it turns out to be one sided then it’s not in your best interest.

I was sad to see some of the most unexpected people move out of my life over a few years. It seemed my journey was too far outside of their expectations – that we had to part. In my sad moments I asked my Guides how I could deal with my loss. Once again they offered me an option. They asked me to think about all of the love we had shared as friends, all of the happy memories and good times. They asked me to see that my life would have been poorer if that friend hadn’t been sharing with me. And they asked me to send my friends loving wishes for their new journeys for we all need as much positive energy as we can get. Then they asked me to let go of the friendship.

The letting go wasn’t easy. Especially when friends left in an unpleasant or upsetting way. We often call them fair weather friends. The ones who take from the relationship but give back very little. Or the ones who were unhappy that their life will be affected by our changing priorities. I remember being criticised for being unhelpful, unsupportive and refusing to give whatever it was they felt they wanted. I wondered if I had dreamed up all the times I had given into the relationship. I tried to count all of the times I had received nothing back – not even a thank you. It was draining, harsh and emotional. Keeping me going was the gentle presence of my Guides and the friendship of the people who stayed with me as I journeyed.

Then there were the times when new friendships formed. I asked my Guides time after time would this or that person be a forever friend. Could this be a relationship that lasted & lasted even if we didn’t see or connect with each other very often? My Guides were very clear. They asked me to wait & see. They encouraged me to put aside any worry or fear based on the progress of past friendships. They helped me to learn that the friends to keep are the ones who not only say what they will do but who also do what they say they will do. They helped me to sense the energy flow in the friendship. If I was doing a lot of giving almost all the time with not much energy being returned they encouraged me to be brave and accept it wasn’t a forever kind of relationship. They helped me to understand that some people can’t share the intimacy of a friendship because they are still carrying past disappointments. They discussed with me where the line lay between friendship, business and family. I am very blessed to have some amazing forever friends. They are there for me even if we don’t see or speak to each other every day, week, month or year. I’m also blessed to have had the fair-weather friends who have helped me to develop my own strength, boundaries and perseverance. Without the fair-weather people I wouldn’t have been able to value the forever people.

It’s also interesting that we make choices about our friendships based on only half, or even less, of the full info. When couples or families separate or split up some people follow one side & some the other. Not many friends stay friends with both sides. There is a guilty little feeling that somehow if we do we are being disloyal to the side we have stayed connected to. So how do we choose? Often we designate one person as the victim, the one in need of support, or the one who we most identify with. Yet that can be equally the same for the other person. But we choose not to see it. When this type of friendship breakdown happened to me guess what I asked the Guides! Why didn’t I get picked to be the friend? What did I do wrong? Why couldn’t they see my pain too? As ever they stepped in to encourage me to see that friendship isn’t some kind of competition. There are no winners and looser in the way I was asking about it.  There is always free will choice. We judge situations and make a choice based on what we want to do for ourselves. These friendships stopped because, for their own reasons, the other person didn’t want them to continue. It suited them. My Guides asked me to notice who was trying their best to stay connected with me (& the other person), how I helped them to stay connected to me & whether I was the one doing the pushing away.

My spiritual journey has brought me into contact with so many people now that I have learned another valuable thing. There are the one meeting friendships too. These rich exchanges are there for myself & the other person to share a warmth of connection, exchange experiences and shine a positive light into both of our lives. Even if it’s only for  five minutes, half an hour, three hours. What matters is the loving connection that can be made, enjoyed and remembered. I have had a wonderful amount of one meeting friendships so far in my journey. I am fascinated that the Universe brings me one of these at exactly the right moment for me. These friendships enrich my daily life. They are forever friendships- little bubbles of time where the authentic me & you can shine through. And that is another wonderful thing to know. My forever friendships are with people who are happy to be their authentic selves, moment to moment, mood to mood. I would not have understood that if I had not had the fair-weather friends too. Isn’t friendship a wonderful gift!

 Day 94 of my blogging challenge.

Scent from the Angels

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In December I had concussion that resulted in loosing my sense of smell. My scent bottles were cast aside, my favourite scented candles useless and the strongest pongs went unnoticed. Even my lovely ArchAngel sprays, designed by the Angels and channelled through me, sat forlorn in their box. I still used the scents and sprays, lit the candles  and imagined the smell of my perfume. Not a hint of a scent broke through.

I had some exciting moments when I thought I could smell the wild lemon grass candle, or a hint of coffee and even rejoiced at a musty smell from my damp boots. The smells were very fleeting. In fact I wondered if I was fooling myself. Loosing the sense of smell really woke me up to how much I love to smell the world. I remember a long time ago asking my Guides to take away my clairalliance – clear smelling – as that particular psychic sense opened me up to smells I didn’t really want to experience. It is possible to smell when the physical body is dying (something many nurses know & experience without perhaps acknowledging it) so I was picking up on illness in the people around me. But it’s useless information really as I had no idea of timescale and no way of finding a use for that kind of info. So better not to have.

I still got smells when I was doing messages to provide evidence for the people I spoke to. Having a specific use for scents is far better than a general mish mash of all sorts of smells. Then a few years ago I became the channel for a group of ArchAngels. I didn’t know it at the time but found myself putting together the fragrances for two ranges of products. There is a third range that needed to be completed. It’s been on the back burner for a couple of years. At the start of this year it became clear that now was the time to work on these last five scents. How? What could I do if I couldn’t smell anything? Today I went off to my lovely friend Jan at her business, Ostrich Angels, so that we could design the fragrances for five transpersonal chakras.

Jan has just about every essential oil or perfume you could imagine. Container after container appeared in front of me. I tried smelling some of them. Nothing. There was a tiny hit of a smell from the ginger but nothing else. How to do it? I had been the ‘nose’ in the previous sessions. I heard the word ‘Trust’. I felt the energy building around me. Suddenly I grabbed a bottle, shuffled it to pair it with another, moved for a third bottle to pair it with a fourth. Within 5 minutes I had paired six combinations to represent six chakras. I had no idea what the scent would be like. Jan picked up the first pair, smiled, said she liked it & moved on. Amazingly she liked all of the pairings with the last one getting a special vote. We both ended up laughing that I couldn’t smell any of them but appeared to have hit the right combinations to suit each chakra.

We had an especially big grin for the sixth combination. We had only planned for 5 but it was clear the Angels wanted a sixth. Jan reckons it is the best of all the fragrances and represents a very special chakra in the etheric body. So now that my own personal preferences for fragrances couldn’t get in the way of today’s work I’m hoping that I will get my normal sense of smell back. I’ve also learned a valuable lesson about trust. I could have said to Jan that I’d be unable to put the fragrances together. I had the choice to opt out with the excuse that my nose would be useless. Yet I knew I had to complete this piece of the jigsaw puzzle. And that it had to be today. I knew my Guides and Inspirers would make it work if I trusted them enough to give it a try. As always they did exactly what they always do – they made it work beautifully.

I’m looking forward to seeing the chakra products. The Earth’s ArchAngels are keen to get their energy vibration out into the world & what better way than glorious fragrances to represent their unconditional love for us. I’m excited about what other puzzles are heading my way. Each day is a new experience of their vibrant connection with me. There is so much fun, passion and laughter to look forward to. Perhaps loosing my sense  of smell for a while is a fair exchange for so much joy.

Day 93 of my blogging challenge.

Inspirational Words

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SeascapeD1I wrote my blog yesterday about being creative. I’d spent some time working on a video for my You Tube channel because my Guides love giving me inspirational words. And I love adding them to the photos & pictures I’ve done. I share them on my Facebook page so that people can stumble on them & get a pick me up of positive energy. For some time now my Guides have been chasing me to get more involved in my video & podcast efforts so the positive energy they blast into me can go out to a wider audience. So today I’m sharing my video as my agreement with them to step up to the job they want me to do.

 

If you have been reading my blogs you will know I believe in a world where energy matters. Where we can influence the energy flow by how we are in our own energy. I would like to contribute positive energy as much as humanly (lol) possible so that I grown the amount of Spirit Light that is going around the energy ocean. If I can do that it might not make a big difference today. But in time what I give out will circulate around to people who need a blast of positive. They may then become positive energy transmitters themselves. If enough of us transmit the positive whilst loving our shadow energy then I believe we can change the world we live in. Peace, love, compassion is possible. We can do it for ourselves and our community who share the planet with us.

It’s time to be inspired. To create the positive even in the challenges. It is a new world we are building together. So share the positive energy! Have a look at what inspires you. Comment on the video as I’d love to know if it has helped.

Day 92 of my blogging challenge.

Lite Spirit: Candles, people, Light

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34093-2-550x550Candles feature very much in my life. I’ve been a buyer of candles, candle holders, wax melts & burners for many, many years. Yesterday I went along to a meeting based all around candles as I’m also a part time independent PartyLite consultant with a team. So now, like Ronnie Corbett,  I’m selling candles too. But those candles do occasionally turn into handles. Cue Ronnie Barker. As well enjoying using candles I get an opportunity to meet people who also love candles and, with my team, called Lite Spirits, to spread a lot of light.

Sometimes when I think about my journey into Spiritualism, communicating with Spirits and then passing on messages from the Spirit World I have to wonder what it’s all about. In fact I’ve spent most of my life wondering what Life is all about. Just when I think I understand why I’m here something else gets thrown into the mix and I’m back figuring it all out again. Was that four candles or fork handles? And what about the pump? If you have never seen the classic sketch from Ronnie’s Corbett and Barker please take a few minutes to have a laugh at the misunderstandings.

I’m aware that I can get so caught up in the meaning of life that I forget to have any life. Passing on accurate messages is a big responsibility. It matter so much to the people who need guidance, to hear from their loved ones, or to have some hope in their lives that taking my mediumship seriously is a key part of what I do. That doesn’t mean that there is no laughter, fun or cheerfulness in the connection with Spirit. It does mean that I try my very best to pass on the whole of the communication as clearly as possible. The Spirit people bring in their laughter and fun too so that is a lighter part of the connection. But like most people, when I’m working I know that underneath there is a responsibility to get the job done. Being able to take myself off to another occupation where fun is most definitely at the heart of what I do is a great benefit. And the laughter I share with people when I visit their homes with my candles is a wonderful gift.

It’s interesting that both of the things I love doing are about light. Creating, spreading and sharing the light. I chose to call my team Lite Spirits because the energy vibration from laughter is uplifting. It makes us feel lighter. For a few moments all of our concerns and cares drop away. We can’t feel worried for anxious when we are chuckling, giggling & belly laughing our way through the moments. That’s why we say laughter is the best medicine. The ability to laugh at ourselves, to take life lightly, can see us through bleak or challenging times. Now and again I’m lucky enough to have a chance to talk about my mediumship or the Spirit World when I’m selling candles. My Guides put me in front of someone who needs the information I can give them. At those moments I really do feel a lightness of spirit. I’m here doing what I was meant to be doing to be of service to the people who are supposed to cross my path.

One of the things I hear constantly when we talk about spirituality is that it involves spreading or shining the Light. What Light does that mean? Not the demand of the ego to be the one in the spotlight getting adoration & worship. We also use the Light to mean spreading knowledge, beliefs and values. Or when we are talking about setting an example. The Light can also be the Divine (if you have that as a belief system). Generally we want to be in the community of Light and sharing our Light. Yet, like the fork handles, understanding how to be the Light is harder. There is room for misunderstanding. Not all people who say they are spiritual are shining their Light. Sometimes they are a reflection; they have ‘borrowed’ another person’s Light and are passing it off as their own. Standing in your own true Light isn’t quite as easy as we wish. To do so you have to have a desire to serve yourself & others, an ability to laugh at yourself so you don’t take yourself too seriously and a willingness to be mindful of what you are doing.

So what about the handles? Being able to work with people across many situations gives me an opportunity to let them see that I’m an ordinary, down to earth human being. I can talk about what I do in a straightforward way. I can laugh about all the jokes about psychics who should have known better. I don’t mind being called Septic Peg. Because they have been in contact with me people have some knowledge about what and who a medium or psychic is. If they do decide they want to find out more they have a contact they can use. Or if they want to explore their own abilities there is a way, through me, to get suggestions or support. There is a way they can open doors they perhaps hadn’t though to explore. It’s worth being a handle, selling candles and bringing the Spirit Light into peoples lives.

Day 87 of my blogging challenge.

Serenity – peacefully writing

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imageHeading for three months of daily blogs & being so close I’ve been thinking today about the writing process. Have I got to a state of serenity with my writing? I use that word deliberately. Some times I’ve sat down to write with the piece already flowing through my mind, writing hurriedly to catch it all on the computer screen, excited to see where the words were taking me. Other times my mind has been blank, completely empty and seemingly determined to remain so. In between have been the days when it seemed ideas dropped in every second but never made it to posts. I have a long list of them which can fill the blank minded days. Or where a good idea was expressed in sluggish, erratic dribs and drabs.

Serenity – the state of being calm, peaceful and untroubled – only applies to my writing sporadically. I hope that as I continue my blogging & the other articles I write the familiarity of the activity will bring a sense of peaceful, purposeful effort. And as I continue to explore the ideas my mind throws up I will be calm about putting my opinions and experiences to a wider audience. There may even be a time when my writing is in such a great balance that every piece I write will be created in a serene way. Especially as I have a muse on hand should I ever get stuck.

I was walking back from my office tonight wondering where to start with my blog and the word serenity popped into my head. It has been a rather less than calm day in some respects so I wondered what had inspired that word. Then came the familiar tingles at the back of my head. My philosophy Guide had decided to get involved in my writing today. She only puts in appearance when there is a spiritual point to be made about something and she can be a bit of a hard taskmaster. She likes to encourage debate so often plays devils advocate. She actually followed up the word serenity with the question why do we try so hard to find it outside when it can only be experienced inside? Then she pointed me to my writing so I would think about my own creative process.

Is it useful to create something in a calm and peaceful way? Many great writers, musicians and artists were tortured souls; visionaries who struggled to share their inner world with other people. We experience the struggle they had with their work through the bliss or perfection they have managed to include in their pieces. Yet there are also great works from those who crafted with an untroubled energy to produce masterpieces. So do we need to be emotionally stirred by our creations or can great works be inspired by an atmosphere of calm? It seems to me my Guide has got me in a bind again. I acknowledge that whatever words emerge I am passionate about writing. In the struggle to say what I mean and mean what I say I have to find a balance where I can step back from judging my work. Endlessly editing, reworking and reviewing what I’ve written would probably result in nothing appearing in the blog at all. So there has to be serenity with what I write. The calmness to send it off into cyberspace to travel where it will. Ah ha! Light  bulb moment. Whilst I have been talking about writing my Guide wants me to understand that creation (of anything) involves two opposites. The inclusion of  emotion sets passion against calm. Creation, an inner journey, and production, the outer journey. It is the merging of these two streams of emotional energy that, if properly balanced, bring out the best possible piece of work.

There is always an underlying message with this Guide. Instead of discussing my writing I could have been discussing my mediumship, my cooking, my anything. Life can be serene if we use our efforts to bring forth the passion and inspiration from within, shaped in whatever way may appeal to us, to honour our creative abilities. For that is the  inner journey – to understand the way in which we use our inner world to shape the outer world. Serenity is available to all of us. We can have a peaceful, calm, untroubled life so long as we embrace our passion for creating and get on with doing it.

At the end of this blog I have no idea if what I’ve written will make sense to anyone else.  I have spend a peaceful, thoughtful hour considering the word serenity and what it means to me. I understand more than I did when I started to write. I have changed slightly through the process of writing. Is it time for you to start creating the inner dialogue with your Guides? Will you find a peaceful discussion or a passionate debate?

Day 86 of my blogging challenge.

Cosmic ordering: attracting abundance

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imageCosmic ordering. Law of attraction. Manifesting abundance. What are we talking about? The idea is that we can request whatever we want in our lives and it will be delivered to our doorstep. Not just our Amazon books, eBay purchase or online shop from a supermarket. But also our money, our new job or our happiness. Sounds really good doesn’t it? Write your wishes down & ‘send’ them out to the Universe then everything will happen just as you requested.

Why am I writing about this subject today? Perhaps because I am going to benefit from a successful crowd funding bid for my business. Perhaps because I have an imaginative solution to my daughter’s studying problem. Perhaps because I’m often asked why the Law of Attraction hasn’t worked for someone (or for me, lol). You see, I believe that we are energy, that what we give out we get back and that if we choose to limit ourselves we will always stay limited in what we receive.

I love that this morning I donated to a funding bid by a theatre company who had secured the support of George Takei. Then this evening I found we had reached our pledge target for our funding bid. Passing on the ‘giving’ energy helped me to create with 102 other businesses enough energy for the support to be sent back to us. If I had  held back, not given any rewards to the project, not shared & shared & shared the web site, posts and tweets the energy going in to manifest success would have been much less. We still might have made it but perhaps only right at the last moment. Now we have a few days to enjoy the success and a great end of project party to look forward to.

That is what manifesting is all about. Generating enough positive, passionate energy for your wishes to register in the Universal ocean of energy. Diverting the flow so that positive energy returns back to you in a form you have requested. Anyone can do it. It really is easy. It can happen so fast that you can surprise yourself. Give it a try. Check it out. See what happens. Put out the thought that you want a (car, job, friend etc.). Send it out with all your positive energy. Step back from what you have asked for and be sure it will happen. Forget about it and move on to something else. Then it will happen.

There are some things to consider though. If you wish for a new car how do you make sure it’s the kind of new car you want? Did you mean new to you rather than brand new? Did you say a make & model but think you would never get that kind of car as you are … to poor, don’t have the money, don’t deserve it, it will be too expensive to maintain? Sending out the order you need to be specific enough, believe it enough and be able to accept that you will get exactly what you asked for. That is where many of us struggle. We asked for something, perhaps not too clearly, got it, didn’t like what we got and lost trust in the ordering service. We blamed the Universe for what it delivered instead of thinking about why we ended up with what we got.

We need to be thinking about if we are asking for the right reason too. Have we asked because we were only wanting to feel better than others, more superior or for reasons of greed, anger, envy or hate?  I said earlier what you give out you get back. Orders are often flawed because we were asking from a place of low vibrational energy. These type of deliveries give you only what you need (often another life lesson about gratitude, acceptance and love) rather that what you might want. So approaching a request knowing that you have given your share of positive loving energy in to the Universal flow helps to attract the best of all outcomes when you are ordering.

One other common pitfall is when you send the request a out you cannot revisit it. If you ask for a new car to be a VW Beetle one day and a Landrover Discovery the next which one should the Universe send you? Perhaps you go from wanting a grey one to a silver one to a red one? How can the Universe know that you won’t change your mind again? You have to let go of the control over the way your delivery happens and the date of delivery too. Going back time & time again to the wish you sent out disrupts the energy flow. Send out one clear wish (with a specific date & time if you like) then move on to the next one. It really is best if you can let the Universe deliver your wish in the best possible way and time to make sure your wish is completely fulfilled.

I’m at the end of a wish fulfilled day. I already have tomorrow’s wishes to send out. What will you order for yourself? How big do you want your wish to be? Time to place an order for yourself??

Day 84 of my blogging challenge

The Blame Game

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imageOne of the hardest things to realise is when I have fallen into panic, fear and possibly victimhood. Going about my ordinary, everyday life I can mange to cope with most things that happen. Of course I can try hard to plan my days so that I keep a tight control on what is happening. However life has a way of turning upside down every now & again. Staying strong may be much more of a challenge during those times than usual. There is a temptation that I might end up trying to pass the responsibility for my life on to other people. I might start playing the blame game!

We all have circumstances and situations that make us feel weak, dispirited or disempowered. Those ‘buttons’ can easy be pressed any time. Things happen that remind us that we are not Masters of the Universe, that we are very much frail human beings in a chaotic world and that there is only an illusion of control in our lives. It’s during these life events that we are at our most fearful and panicky. Sometimes the ‘button’ to an observer might not seem so big. Perhaps we didn’t get the job we were after. Or someone we put on a pedestal turned out to be not at all like we imagined. I always wanted to meet Jane Austin but perhaps we wouldn’t have ever got on because we were born in very different times. Sometimes those buttons are much bigger, big enough that an observer would certainly feel empathy for us. The person you love deeply not loving you back. A house you love being flooded. A parent dying.

When our foundations, our beliefs about ourselves & our place in life are rocked we wobble too. A natural part of that wobble is to look at why this is happening. It’s much easier to look outward than inward. If the focus is outside ourself we can transfer the emotional energy away from ourself. Then it often turns into blame. What has happened is because of … rather than anything we might have created, caused or even wished for. It’s at this point that it also becomes easier to blame ‘them’. Them can be a person, a group, a company, a government or anyone who doesn’t understand the way we are feeling. Perhaps even the person who is trying to help us the most. From this point on it is easy to place the responsibility for what has happened and how we feel wholly on ‘them’. The game has really started.

Alongside the blame it’s also possible to start feeling like no one else has as hard a life as we do. No one else understands. Everyone is against us. We are sinking further into victimhood as these feelings are followed by thoughts about being insignificant, worthless or invisible. Our whole perspective on life becomes stuck in finding ‘proof’ to back up the way we are feeling and thinking about ourself. The blame game takes on a life of its own and we are stuck in an endless recycling of negative emotions. We start searching for a rescuer. And when that person can’t rescue us we have yet another person to blame.

One of the Spiritualist Movement’s principles is Personal Responsibility. I’ve often channelled philosophy from my Guides in relation to this principle because it’s one that is easy to say but hard to live. I have come to understand that being spiritual is not about what you say but about what you do. So if I wish to develop my spirituality in this life I also have to live accepting that I am responsible for myself. The energy of my feelings, thoughts and actions creates the world around me. If I am angry and full of blame I will find situations arising where I stay angry and blame more. If I am positive and strong through what life puts in my way then when anything happens I will be able to deal with it and make a positive outcome. That’s not to say that weak moments, fears or panic won’t happen. But when I feel and think that way I will be able to look inside myself to understand why I am reacting that way.

Stepping out of the blame game also means that I stop telling myself that I’ve got things wrong. Making judgements actually ends up clouding any issue anyway. I am my harshest critic. I am harder on myself than anyone else. I fail to notice or admire the inventive and original ways I resolve the life issues that have create wobbles. Accepting personal responsibility for my internal world gives me permission to find the wonderful parts of me that get lost when blame starts. The words on the picture at the top of this post came to me from Spirit whenI was trying to understand how I had been caught up in a blame game. My Guides wanted to help but not to rescue. They wanted to make it clear that I had to rescue myself. By looking into me I could get myself unstuck and move forward onc more.

The words were a bit like a bucket of cold water being poured over me. They brought me to my senses. I started to question why I was putting myself into blame game situations, what need that served in me and what I had to change in me to stop the destructive energy of blame. I found that I could be strong enough to own my thoughts, feelings and actions. Strong enough to to change me rather than others. There is a freedom that comes from finding yourself. If you know who you are in your heart you can never be a victim, invisible or insignificant. You stand in your power knowing you have choices. That is true spirituality in action. Do you go inwards? Are you standing in your power? Is it time for you to accept the responsibility for you?

Day 83 of my blogging challenge.