A Like Minded Community: Why Does It Matter?

like minded global communityOne of the things I often ask my Guides about is their insistence that the Spirit World is a like minded community. Surely there will be differences? It would be too perfect if there weren’t. How would the Spirit people progress otherwise? Is their world really so lacking in challenge?

Of course they enjoy debating this with me. I understand that we come here in order to experience the consequences of free will choice first hand. It’a the place where my Spirit gets to be a bit rebellious. It’s also the reality in which my Spirit experiences the limitations that free will choice can put on unconditional love. I know that we live in a world where love struggles to be the guiding force. Human emotions continually slide into the lower vibrational feelings. And then get denied, ignored or blocked out completely. I know how hard it is to look in my mirror and own my shadow side. The impact of that choice is a global community that is in bits. We are far from a like minded species.

When I’ve asked about this and the connection to the Spirit World we came from my Guides have always answered ‘Love’. They remind me that the community on the other side share a like minded understanding of unconditional love. Their sense of community is from recognising that only love matters. And also that each and every Spirit matters too. I was discussing this today with a really inspiring friend. I often forget that I matter. It’s part of my upbringing, my gender, my place in the structure of this world that I am conditioned to think that others matter more than me. I’ve been told all my life that my duty is to love others before I love myself. And if I do love myself then that love must be conditional.

It must be conditional because I don’t matter as much as the others on the planet. It’s funny how many like minded people I know who share that same wrong headed belief.

Because time and again my Guides have reminded me that I do matter. They have helped me to understand that by limiting my love for myself I am actually limiting the love I can give to others. No matter how much I do if I let that martyr lurk inside me then I will reduce my capacity to love the rest of the human race. To build a better community, at any level, I now understand that I have to recognise that I matter. Then I can open my heart to the idea that other people matter. Not just the like minded ones who limit themselves in the same way I do. But every single person on the planet.

That has been hard for me to grasp. How can I accept those who hurt and harm others in deliberate and clear ways? They are not like minded as far as I am concerned. What about the people who tell themselves they have to make hard decisions but their choices show that clearly, to them, some people don’t matter? Again, I would hope they are not like minded either. Yet if I am promoting unconditional love there is a point where I have to understand that they matter too. They are playing out the limited love they allow themselves. And the limited love they offer to others. Because a global community that acts from a flow of love is hard to achieve whilst we all sit in judgement on one another.

Ah, say my Guides, that is where like minded thinking begins. When I and others are ready to accept that everyone matters. And we stop limiting our love with judgements.

I know it is a big ask. I have spent many years learning that I matter. Challenging the inner dialogue that tells me I am not a good person. Or intelligent. Even that I’m not worthy. And a thousand other judgements that I have accepted or, worse still, applied to myself. It’s quite a struggle. yet it’s one I need to complete so that I can recognise more fully just how much other people matter too. So that I can grow my like minded community to include even more participants. I am sure that this is the way to change the global community. When we all realise the ‘I Matter – You Matter’ flow of energy there a a great chance that our young people will be able to love themselves unconditionally from the start of their lives.

That’s the biggest challenge of all. To help the next few generations turn the global community into a like minded one. Not by use of coercion or force. Or by preaching one single religious view. But through a deep understanding that every view matters and needs to be fully expressed. Then there are no hidden agendas, no secrets and no judgements. And I know we will be able to deal with even the most difficult views in a loving and compassionate way. After all, I know it works that way in the Spirit World so why not aim for the same here. Of course, I know my Guides would love us to need a new challenge. Because if, by our own free will, we acted as a community that cared for each member of that community then we wouldn’t be stretched enough.

Our Spirit Within needs to grow and evolve. I would love to have the opportunity of doing that within a community that came from the heart and recognised that everyone mattered. Think how creative humanity is. What wonders could we have if we became like minded and loving?

Day 824 of my blogging challenge

Opening My heart To Let Love Flow

openingLove. I’m back to that word that seems to have a thousand meanings. Opening my eyes to how tricky it is to pin down a definition for this most powerful of human emotions. And the reason why I’ve done so many wrong-headed things in my life.

In my work I often talk about unconditional love. Yet I know I have been on a life long journey to understand where I am conditional with love. Even where I have mistaken other feelings for this very elusive emotion. Or when I have loved someone or thing more than myself. Yet I keep trying to ‘find’ love of one sort or another. And all the while my Ego Mind tries to mislead or distract me away from the very feeling I want to experience. Because that is the issue. Do I love myself enough? Am I opening my heart to myself and my own beauty? And in what way do I interpret the word love when I apply it to myself?

I realise that love for myself, opening my heart and being in the flow of love all require one key ingredient. It is that I have to trust myself. I have to allow myself the recognition that I am someone who is lovable. Yet with an Ego Mind that is always ready to pull me back, put me down or undermine my intentions trust can be so very difficult. It is within myself that I learn to interpret the meaning of love. But that means opening up to the part of me that I don’t love. The bit that I have learned, been conditioned to, taken on board from life’s experiences. Because not everyone I meet has seemed to fill my world with love. Bringing me reasons to distrust the very nature of love altogether.

Understanding the nature of disappointment, conditionality and restrictions in the flow of love is a way of opening up to more love.

As is my understanding that all of us are dealing with different interpretations of the word love. Interpretations that have arisen from what we have encountered from our selves and others. My journey into understanding love had been one of stripping back these layers within me. And re-engaging with my heart. Making it once more central to all I do. Reminding myself to stay open to the opportunities that love brings. Standing my ground in the flow inwards and outwards of this life enhancing energy. Letting love find me in very many different ways. And trusting my heart to circulate all of the love that flows to and from me.

This is a very important year. The Divine Feminine energy will be flowing powerfully through all of our lives. The Divine Mother will have our back, so to speak. It will be an exercise in tough love. Be ready to learn to trust and therefore love yourself unconditionally. And also be ready to learn to trust and love others unconditionally too. The energy of love is so much required to help us draw back from the self destructive urges of the Ego Mind. To release ourselves from the control exerted by fear and hate. Opening your heart, to yourself and to others, is the way forward. It is the way to manifest harmony and peace.

I understand you may struggle, like I do, with the meaning of unconditional love. Or struggle with how to live your life in the flow of unconditional love. However, keep trying. Remind yourself every day that you are loved. That whatever others think, say or do you are a person full of love. Trust in this truth and share it with the world in whatever way you can.

Day 794 of my blogging challenge

Love is the only energy

IMG_1095Over the next few days the hype about Valentine’s Day (Feb 14th) will be even more frantic. Suggestions in advertising, the media & from others will be about buying, sending, giving & receiving love tokens from each other. If you don’t get them it must mean you are unloved. If you do get them you must be the most blessed with love. Yet how many people make an effort, spend a lot of money, do a lot of ‘romantic’ gestures without feeling love for themselves. Or feel this is the only way to convince someone that they love them. Yet Love is the eternal energy that we most misunderstand, muddle up & feel is lacking in our lives.

I am frequently asked to predict about someone’s love life. When will they get the perfect person to share their life with? When will the person they love end up loving them back? Who should they choose? Why are the alone? These questions come from that part of ourself that seeks for a connection to another. A connection so strong & powerful that it’s like a constant energy flowing through & uplifting our life. When we have it we sometimes fail to recognise it; when we have lost it we sometimes despair that we will ever find it again; and, when we don’t want to look at ourselves we often obsess about the love we feel for another.

So this energy we call Love is often hard for us to understand, feel or be joyful about. Yet as the connective energy between all Spirits it’s not something we can ignore. All the questions I am asked seem to come down to an intuitive acknowledgement within each of us that our Spirit lives in love but our human personality limits the amount of Love we will give or receive. That is why there are so many channelled messages & teachings concerning the nature of Love as expressed through being a human being. We call it unconditional Love to identify that so often we place restrictions on the amount of Love that is available. How many times have you thought “I really love you but … if only … could you just …”? How many times have you said it? Said it to yourself or another?

Even more so the Love for an intimate partner becomes ‘conditional’ as every minor flaw, quirk or habit becomes an irritant if it isn’t altered at our suggestion. Or if that partner grows & changes in a way we are uncomfortable with. Or we grow apart & not together. I hear so many people asking when their partner will change or stop something they are doing. Behind the questions there is a dissatisfaction with the person they have picked to share their life with. This eats away at trust, love, togetherness. Yet there is no reason for this to happen.

What we don’t seem to have grasped is that the energy of Love flows through every person. Every one of us is Love. It’s that simple. We are all Love. And to find & experience that Love we have to start by recognising that we Love ourself first. How often do you tell yourself ‘I love you’? How often do you remind yourself that you are a unique, wonderful being full of Love? Because it is true – to love anyone else you have to love yourself first. Let the Love energy shine in your aura & you will find yourself surrounded by other people who know they are Love. As you see your own Love energy you will start to see it in other people too. That way you can find the person who is the right Love for you.

Don’t look at the potential of a person – if, from your point of view,they have to change to be suitable partners you are heading for disappointment as they are very unlikely to change themselves & neither are you. People change hardly if at all for anyone else. Since we all have some level of healing energy it’s tempting to imagine it’s Love when we are really rescuing, healing, giving an energy hand out or an energy hand up. So be brave enough to acknowledge that compassionate Love is unlikely to be returned as lover Love. Love means seeing your needs, hopes, desires for yourself (self-love) flowing out towards others who see & Love themselves clearly. When that Love energy connects with a person who has the same needs, hopes, desires for themselves you will have found ‘True’ Love with each other.

Celebrate true Love. If you have found it, it is extremely precious and to be remembered every day. Out of Love flows more Love so share it with everyone you connect with. This Valentine’s Day the greatest gift you can give is not measured in time, money or effort but in how much you can Love yourself.