A Human Transitions Back To Spirit

I traveled out to Bacup today to take a church service. My job is to relay the messages from those who no longer live in a human body. They have made the biggest change of all. Back into Spirit.

It’s a job I’ve done for a long time. I often think I’ve covered everything there is to know about death and the Afterlife. Yet every now and then the Spirit World reminds me of the amazing process that transition can be. In the move from being human to being Spirit again how much love and compassion there is. Because today there were some lovely examples of the continuation of our exsistance and one very wonderful message of hope. I’ve written before about my evidence based mediumship. I want the person getting the message to feel or sense the presence of their Spirit loved one. That is greatly helped by factual information that I can be given that I would be unable to get in any other way.

During the messages this afternoon there was plenty of fact passed on through me. Confirmations that someone other than me was present. But to get that sense of presence  I also want the messages to be relevant to the listener. Loved ones come back to help. To give us a positive boost. To get us laughing and even hopeful again. I know they can’t take away the grief of their leaving. But they certainly want to remind us that they haven’t gone for good. So sometimes it’s also important to explain how they made the transition to the Afterlife. Giving information about their death or what happened afterwards helps to confirm that they have crossed over successfully. It sets minds at rest on this human side of life.

It’s also true that in the Afterlife they keep their human personality. That way when they message us we can recognise them. But they have returned to their true Spirit self as well.

Today I saw both aspects of that transition. There was a message from a very recently passed Spirit who came in his human self to ask that his family be reassured that he is safe with loved ones in Spirit. He told who collected him and helped him cross. He also asked that his loved ones here be supported in their grief. And he provided comfort to others by showing that loved ones survive that great transition. Now matter how challenging it may appear to be to us. From our human perspective. Along side him and helping him was another Spirit known to some of the congregation. The second Spirit explained that the energy around the first one required a booster. The second Spirit was the boost.

Although both Spirits were complete strangers to one another they shared a common link with people in the church. Much to the delight of those who it mattered to both Spirits had joined forces to bring in their messages of love. Especially the second Spirit. This one came as a pure Spirit being. One who had been human but was now through the completed transition process and fully back connected to the Afterlife. One who could let the human personality go and move on to do the work required in the Afterlife. My Guides tell me there is always a great sense of achievement when a Spirit completely lets go of their need to be human any longer. Because it is a new beginning. A fresh start. I know my Mum made that transition in order to be one of my Guides. That doesn’t mean I’ve lost her human side. She can pick it back up again if she has to.

However, I also get the benefit of the unconditional love she radiates as a Spirit. That helps me so much. Human aspect or Spirit aspect, our loved ones have made a tremendous change. One we have to make. But one that, when it comes, will be a joyful new beginning for our Spirit.

Day 580 of my blogging challenge 

The Glue Holding Us Together

Families. Love them or hate them they are the glue holding us together. But perhaps the definition of family is worth looking at.

Today I went to see my friend Jan as she packed up her home. She is getting ready to move closer to her family. Life has pulled her across to a new location and she will have more time with them. But less with the people who are this side of the country. It got me thinking about our friendship. And how friends become part of our family too. Then they move further away as life drifts us into new opportunities. Yet the glue that holds us together remains. I like to think of my family in this way. Who am I glued to?

I was delighted to meet a friend recently who I hadn’t seen face to face for eleven years. The glue was still there. She and her husband became part of my family a long time ago. I think about them often and remember them in my prayers. In the same way that Jan will also be thought of often even if I can’t pop over to see her as often as I do now. That’s the beauty of family. It doesn’t have to be only blood and married in. My family is very much a mixture of blood, marriage, friends and loved ones in Spirit. I take my lead from the Spirit World. In the Afterlife we are all one family. There is no distinction about how I am related to anyone else.

I am part of the eternal family. The glue that holds us together is love. Because that is the enduring energy of connection.

Today I found that a reassuring thought. Over the past week I’ve been arranging to meet up with some of the people I consider to be my Earth family. It will be lovely to catch up and find out face to face how they are doing. Because sometimes a phone call or message chat isn’t quite the same. And I will see if the glue of love is still present in our relationship. I say that because sometimes it seems that a family member is ready for a new family. Like a marriage where a son or daughter is gained or lost friendships come to a natural end. Of a sort. That person will remain in my family thoughts. They will be someone I think fondly of but they may now be ready to relate to me in a different way.

Love has many different aspects. Families are the same. I feel that I have learned so much in my human journey through the different kinds of love I’ve shared. The times when the glue has been so strong the bond is unbreakable. Those connections when the glue has worn away and we have gone in different directions. Or those relationships where the glue has to be reapplied time and again. Even those wonderful ones where the glue is very flexible and stretchy. When I can share the love whether the other person is near or far. Most wonderful of all, to realise that the glue crosses time and space. I am connected through love to the Afterlife and my family forever.

I am surrounded by loving family. Even in the moments when I feel most alone there is glue linking me to the other people in my life. On top of the moors today that thought blew me away.

Day 527 of my blogging challenge 

Is It Survival of the Fittest?

Back in my science days I learned a lot about survival of the fittest. The competition for scarce resources. Of the human drive to stay alive. As I was writing this afternoon a few random snippets clicked together.

I can’t quite remember when but on the radio recently I heard someone talking about the guilt he had felt about his ability to think survival thoughts. He had been in a transport with many other prisoners, all cramped and starving, and he had wished that someone would die so he could have more room. A better chance of survival. Because only the fittest survive. The ones who can grab as much of the resources as possible. That’s the push behind trying to get the most we can. Before anyone else can get it.

After all, what matters most is that I survive. Not the most creative, or the most vulnerable or the one with the most necessary skills. It’s all about me. Somehow this energy has become a deeply entrenched part of the way we live. It’s ok for me to want the best home, car, phone. It’s also ok for me to do whatever it takes to get that. Of course I can dress it up by saying I work for what I have. I can tell myself that I’m providing an income for others who work to provide what I want. Even cutting across someone else’s livelihood or land or status is ok because my needs come first. I excuse myself by saying that my presence on this planet is greater than yours.

It’s why we turn a blind eye to the weak. Not being the fittest is a judgement that is acted on in every moment of the day. Because we think resources are scarce. So only the best at grabbing them deserves them.

There is a crisis in our health care, our education, our global financial system. It’s not that we are running short of resources. It’s that we have let the ‘strongest’ grab the most. I’ve also joined in that game. Panicked about income and material things. Convinced myself that if I don’t have such and such I will die. That my wellbeing will be severely damaged if I stop grabbing for everything. That death will get me. Because that’s the thing that pushes us all. If we don’t survive we die. But we all know we are going to die in the end anyway. It’s just we’d like it not to be yet.

Survivor guilt can be a powerful emotion. It links in with shame. And anger. Having had a thought I can’t take it out of my mind. In the same way that I can’t unsay words. Of course I can try to forget. I can hide the greedy, needy side away from myself. Yet it will still be there. Ready to jump out as soon as I find myself back in a situation where survival of the fittest comes into play. It’s a fundamental part of competition. So I’m likely to run into it all the time. Because we also seem to have turned competition into a virtue too. All day long people try to be better, more beautiful, more productive or more well liked than anyone else.

What am I fittest for? Does my life have to be lived on the edge of a fake drive to survive?

I was writing a piece to be added into my book. It was all about Spirit, Spirituality and Spiritualism. Something that I’ve thought a lot about over the last dozen or so years. A subject I’ve definitely tussled with as I’ve watched people do horrible things to each other in the name of  a Divine Being. Or to grab at more of the resources they need. And I include adulation, flattery, money, power and control in that list of ‘survival’ items too. We have developed a psychological dependence on one upmanship that drives much of the tit for tat behaviour over who has the most of everything.

I’m not sure we are the fittest to survive right now. That doesn’t mean I’m writing the human race off. But I do feel that our survival has to be based on a new insight into our inner nature. There are better choices that could be made by all of us to ensure that everyone had the prospect of surviving most of the ups and downs of life. And I feel that our Guides are doing their best to remind us that the survival we should be interested in is the one where we head to the Afterlife. I can’t move away from the knowledge they have given me of the Spirit World. Why would I need to worry about surviving here when my death is a new beginning? Instead of survival of the fittest now it’s time to acknowledge that we all survive. Always.

Day 477 of my blogging challenge. 

When There Is No Answer

I love doing readings. I get to answer a lot of questions for people. Questions about how their loved ones are. About what happens in the Afterlife. Plus letting people see that loved ones still take an interest in us.

They love us as much as we love them. The love stays even if they have to go. For a short while we are separated from each other. So loved ones also come back to tell us that they are going to be there when we eventually join them. There are other questions people bring to the reading. I know that they want an answer to all sorts of things besides the loss of their relatives. Such as why is life so hard? Why do these things keep happening to me? Will the people I’m with down here be happy, be healthy, be safe? Is the person who has hurt me going to be punished? Lots and lots of very important questions.

It’s difficult when I have no answer for them. I am able to pass on what the Spirit people tell me. If they don’t answer there is nothing more I can say. I can pass on the love. Or I can bring evidence of survival after physical death. And I can support and encourage. But if I am not told the information the question has to stay unanswered. That’s hard for me. As hard as I’m sure it is for the person wanting an answer. It’s always tempting to try to give some sensible advice. To fill the gap, so to speak. Because I really want to help people make the best of their lives.

I have to keep in my mind that I am the voice for Spirit. They are the only ones who can really offer answers. That’s because they are the ones who can more easily see the bigger picture.

I know that unanswered questions are a disappointment. It’s about our need to know. Even about whether we are right or wrong. The Spirit World have clear rules. They cannot tell me anything that would interfere in the choice someone has to make. We have been given free will for exactly that reason. It’s all about having to work it out for ourselves. One lady left today without an answer to her question. All the love and comfort that had been given in the reading was set on one side because she didn’t hear what she thought she needed. I hope that soon she can remember the love that her family were trying to share with her. Sometimes the answer ends up being unimportant because love is what we need to receive.

Day 467 of my blogging challenge.

Random Connections?

Some days stand out because something just feels right. Connections flow. Everything makes sense. There are no loose ends left over.

I love making all sorts of connections. To people. To Energy Beings. And to all sorts of intuitions and inspirations. Although I was focused on some admin tasks, not my favourite thing, all the bits and pieces got done. Easily and without much fuss from me. The Intuitive Energy group at lunchtime brought out the best of energies. So that ideas connected with real experiences. People found their ‘ah ha’ moments. Understanding expanded. It was wonderful to watch people making connections for themselves. I love that part of my job. Because I know it means much more when I make a discovery for myself than when I’m told that’s how it is.

Doing some readings later in the day I also felt the power of making connections. What I’m told to pass on in messages may seem to me like random information. But time after time the person getting the message understands it completely. I’ve learned to trust this seemingly random information. Even to recognise when someone has found their way to me in a manner they think is random. Because the Spirit World and Energy Beings bring me into contact with exactly who I need to connect with. The people I need to meet. Usually because I can make a connection for them. Or I can help them to make the connections they need.

Moving from connection to connection I am challenged to explore why this person, experience or piece of information. Connections are there to help us grow and evolve.

I can learn so much about myself and others when I pay attention to the connection between us. I know that I can also connect the people I meet up with one another too. We all need to be able to share with like minded people. I’ve been helped so much in my spiritual development by the support of others. So it’s really special to flow through a day where one good connection follows another. I smiled this evening when I got home. Nothing about my day has really been random. It unfolded in the way it was meant to. So I got to meet some new human and Spirit people. And to make connections for them. Connecting together is what it’s all really about.

Day 461 of my blogging challenge. 

Visions of Love and Hope

Today I went to Burnley Spiritualist church to give messages from the Spirit World. I like to call them visions of love and hope. As each loved one steps forward they remind us that love is eternal. I know that getting a message is as important as giving one.

As I drove to the church I was reminded about a lovely friend of mine, Denise Butterworth, a wonderful medium who is no longer with us. Today is her birthday. We often spoke about the importance of passing on the messages to the best of our ability. I know that to bring the presence of a loved one into the room shares the love that was once felt. It also brings the hope of reuniting one day. And tells us that love is still with us. My work has been about bringing the evidence from the Spirit people who come. Then passing on the positive flow of love and healing. It’s been my one of my visions for almost eleven years to do this work.

Today I thought about the new visions that are building in front of me. Leaving some things behind to join in new work. I’m certain that at the heart of my work will be love and hope. The connection to the Spirit people. Evidence and presence. Yet I’ve also been asked by my Guides to stop serving at Spiritualist churches. That change is from next year. Alongside it, in March, I’m stepping down from a committee post at Hebden Bridge Spiritualist church. My journey, as it has been all of my life, is about spirituality rather than religion. And I believe that new ways of connecting people to their loved ones are on the way in for me.

Visions of the way ahead often come in blurred around the edges. Hazy and lacking detail. But insistent if I listen to my heart.

I know that there are many challenges for all of us in the next few years. I’ve been told by my Guides that we have to hold onto love and hope. Each one of us has to focus on a positive outcome to every issue. Because all of us have a chance to influence the way the energy flows. I find myself doing a lot of manifesting work. Putting my attention on the connections I and others have to the Spirit World. I believe that they can help by sending us encouragement, support and, most of all, the energy of love. It is hard to let people we love go peacefully off to the Afterlife. But I also know that from their side they send us courage too.

They ask us to hold visions in our minds. Visions of peace, enlightenment and a golden age for all. Not in false hope. But in the true understanding that me,  you and everyone single person can share in that future too. I also know that we have to rediscover the Divine love energy that flows between us all. And keep that flame of hope even in the darkest times. The loved ones who stepped in today wanted to remind us that we are never alone. I and anyone else who wishes to do so can have the support and guidance necessary to make life shine. As I move forward with my new work I’m looking forward to much more love and hope.

Day 441 of my blogging challenge.

Working the Energy in All Ways

I started my day doing some shamanic work. Then it was on to readings with the Spirit World. And finally working the energy again at Hebden Bridge Spiritualist Church.

One of the things I really appreciate is the variety of my day. I enjoy the opportunity to be working in lots of different ways. It means I can swap from one activity to another if necessary so that I don’t get stuck in a rut. I feel we all like a variety of things to do. However we don’t always get the chance to be flexible about the tasks we are given. Working for myself has been a great blessing. One with a steep learning curve. Also lots of ups and downs. Some quite scary moments too. But never dull or routine. I feel fortunate to have been able to follow activities I enjoyed doing.

Best of all, I have discovered that I love looking at the world from the energy point of view. Instead of being into the detail of who did, what, when and why I can consider my life as a flow of significant points. Moments when the tide turned one way or another. Last night I was watching a programme about a small boat crossing a challengeing tidal flow between Orkney and the mainland. Although the people were paddling hard the effect of the tide was to drift them along. I guess that’s what I’m doing when I consider the energy view of things.

There are tides flowing through our lives deep under the surface. I have to navigate my way from one end of life to the other. Working to steer myself on a safe route. Trying not to capsize.

If I have learned lots of different ways to surf the energy I can help myself when the tricky tides change abruptly. That’s where my connection to Energy Beings really adds to my journey. I’m never alone in my boat. They can suggest changes of course, techniques and also boost my energy. I remind myself that working in many different ways lets me benefit from a wide range of positive influences. I’m so glad that my Guides were keen for me to have the widest possible training, over many years, and that every day they let me immerse myself in energy work. I’m learning every moment I’m working!

Day 422 of my blogging challenge.

Joyful at the New Beginning

This month I have three anniversaries of loved ones passing over to the world of Spirit. Although they have happened over a number of years it took me a while to feel joyful about their loss.

I know it might sound strange to say that their loss was joyful. I felt the pain of their going. An empty space was created just at the point of the year when I feel the connection most to family and friends. Grief at a time of celebration is hard to handle. With each loss I struggled to immerse myself once again in the festivities surrounding the turn of the year. Sitting around the dinner table knowing that these people had gone beyond my means of connection. Remembering that they were frozen in time now. Lost to me as my years clicked by but theirs didn’t.

This was long before I understood about the Spirit World. The afterlife that I now believe waits for all of us. I walked through my grief thinking I had lost these loved ones forever. Each December I remembered their absence with a pang. Death happens. It is a certainty in an uncertain world. Yet I struggled to understand why these people had been taken away from me. I wanted them back. There were lots of natural reasons for my desire to make the world back into what it had been. In some ways I was still a child, afraid of the unknown, wandering in the dark.

Eventually I started to discover my ability to communicate with Spirit people. It was a frustrating and joyful process.

My views about the exsistence of an afterlife changed as a result of my experiences. I learned that there were Spirit people ready and able to talk to me. So long as I paid attention to them. I also learned that they enjoyed making the connections with us. They wanted to remind us of their love. But I found it hard to get to speak to my own loved ones. Over and over I asked them to talk to me. It seemed that they had gone silent. I wondered if they were really there. Or if they did still love me. It was my lesson in patience.

Of course I asked my Guides to help me all the time. Even they seemed slow to respond. Until one particular day. They must have decided I was ready to hear what they needed to tell me. I’m not sure I was listening as much as I should. But they have told me exactly the same many times since. My Guides asked me to think about death from the perspective of the person who had passed over. They asked me to think about this change as a birth. A new beginning or a return to where we had left off in the Spirit World.

My Guides wanted me to consider what it would feel like to wake up dead. And to find myself surrounded by loved ones.

It was a question which I thought about a lot. How would it feel? I thought at first I would be a bit shocked. Perhaps sad that I’d had to leave the Earth. But I would also feel glad to be seeing the people I loved once more. Maybe I would wonder if I’d left anything unfinished. Perhaps I would be relieved that all physical pain had disappeared. Or wanting to go back and be with someone I’d left behind. I began to see that moving from this life to the next would provoke such a mixture of feelings.

At this point my Guides reminded me that I would be reunited with people I had missed, perhaps for a long time, and there would be catching up to do. I finally had a light bulb moment. It would be a celebration to find myself back with those people. I would be joyful to see all of them again. And surely they would see this as a joyful occasion too? Even if there is no such thing as time in the Spirit World they would be meeting me as a changed person from the one they knew. One of my grandma’s died when I was a child. I wonder what we would talk about if I met her now?

That became another interesting question. How joyful to finally reconnect, share, and discuss our life together with a lady who I will always remember from a child’s point of view. Inside or perhaps hidden underneath the grief is an opportunity to once again share the love we had in this life. I am remembering my loved ones tonight with joy knowing that they found joy in returning to their loved ones. And I will share in that joy when it is my time to become Spirit once more.

Day 401 of my blogging challenge.

A Warm Welcome for Spirit

img_2363My blog is a little late tonight because I’ve been out most of the day.  I have been to Harley St Spiritualist church in Barrow in Furness to do the services. With a warm welcome waiting for me it was a pleasure to connect with the Spirit World in this lovely church.

Driving home I started to think about all of the churches I have been to over the last 10 years. When I took my first tentative steps into doing church services I’m not sure I realised how many times I would be the one passing on messages to others. It was more about exploring a new ability I had discovered than being the medium on the platform. Yet over the years I have had many a warm welcome and the support of the people attending that evening.

However, I also thought about the churches where the welcome wasn’t so warm. Sometimes the church was struggling to stay open so people were stressed. Occasionally there were only a few stalwarts left to run the church so there was more stress. Now and again there was a distinct atmosphere. A sort of ‘this is how we do it here’ energy that cooled even the warmest smile. In some of these churches the welcome didn’t even include the congregation.

Of course I recognise that it’s not easy to run a church or centre. I’ve been involved in doing both and certainly at the start of this year was stressed about both. Creating a warm welcome is based on every one of the team focusing on the same things. Again not always easy.

So what are the churches doing right when I feel like I’ve had that welcome? I love it that people smile at me. Even better if they offer me a cup of tea. I might not have one until after my service but an offer is always a kindness. Also I love if the people running the church are smiling at everyone who comes in. I know there are jobs to do before a service but a ‘meeter and greeter’ kind of person can get everyone feeling relaxed. Especially if it’s the first time someone has been to a church.

A church is a family too. For someone who needs the connection to their loved ones feeling comfortable with the people at a church is important. Families do fall out. But I feel it’s best to save disagreements for later. Falling out creates low vibrational energy that can affect the medium, the Spirit visitors and the church congrgation. And as in any family disagreements need to be resolved with an eye on loyalty. Nothing is solved by trying to get people on one side or another. The church is much more welcoming if everyone strives to be loyal to the church not factions within it.

I also feel that the people running the church, the helpers, members, mediums and supporter have to remember something very important. The church represents the Spirit World.

When someone new to the Spiritualist movement steps over the threshold do the feel that the place they have stepped into is peaceful and loving? Do they find people who are there to serve on behalf of loved ones in Spirit? That is the only reason to offer mediumship demonstrations. So it is on all of us involved in churches and centres to take responsibility for creating that warm welcome no matter what. After all, spirituality is something lived, shown through action and behaviour. Not just talked about and then ignored.

I also feel that my thoughts about a warm welcome carry over into other aspects of my life. We seem to find it really hard to work together. To welcome the differences between us as a rich source of choice. I know I have rejected others because I didn’t value their abilities in connection with our joint work. But the Spirit people haven’t given up on me. They prompt my thoughts. They draw my attention to being of service. And they are helping me to change so that I can do better, serve better and live better with the people around me.  Next time you are in disagreement with someone ask yourself if you are being loyal to your spiritual beliefs. The answer might surprise you ?

Day 378 of my blogging challenge.

Mediums Into the Future

img_2346It’s been a lovely day of reaching out to other mediums. I’ve also been able to watch a medium work this evening and very much enjoyed seeing my friend Gordon Walsh take the service at Hebden Bridge Spiritualist church.

I was reaching out because I’m currently also the booking secretary at Hebden Bridge church. I’m sure many people would be surprised to find out that mediums are booked for services a year in advance, sometimes two. It’s not only the job of the booking secretary to fill the diary for the next year but to ring up a week before the booked date and confirm everything. Of course looking so far ahead can mean that the mediums have to cancel. I’m used to finding replacement mediums at short notice. I even have an emergency stand in list just in case.

So when I’m asked to put a service in my own diary I treat it as a fixed commitment. I know the disruption that a short notice cancellation can cause. However I also know that it’s unreasonable to expect that we will all know exactly what situation we are going to be in more than a few weeks in advance. And no, my Guides can’t always tell me that I’m going to need to cancel. There is that little thing called free will. The choices I make now affect the future I’m likely to have. But nothing is set in concrete. That’s another good reason for a back up list.

When I think about planning for the future I don’t really need my intuitive ability to tell me that things might change. That’s one of life’s givens.

So if I know that things might change or that I might have changed perhaps the best thing about my plans is to make sure they are flexible? I encourage people who come for readings to understand why the Spirit World often ignores the future. They know that I have to make my own choices. Where I get to through making those choices will depend on whether they are wise ones or not. Or on whether I can be flexible enough or not. Mediums do get some information about the future for people when it can really prompt a person to change.

However, the Spirit World know how hard it was to get me to change. And I’m not really much different than anyone else. So they encourage us to plan our work without too much interference. Then they make sure they are around if I have to rework my plans. They try to get me to bring my focus closer in. After all, who can say with any certainty what they will be doing a year from now. So I happily book my services in my diary knowing that the booking secretary will have a plan B or C in case I can’t make it.

Day 370 of my blogging challenge.