Thinking Time

imageSometimes it’s good to sit and reflect for a while. Life can be so busy. Today I’ve been able to get some thinking time. In my day I have lots of little tasks to do to make sure that my business is running smoothly. Often those little tasks end up filling my whole day. I find myself swamped with dealing with all the admin, queries, bookings and planning. So much so that I drift off from looking at what I am doing in a strategic way. Then I head home wondering how I have spent my time or if I’ve achieved anything. Of course big plans don’t happen without the million small steps that make it so. Yet now and again it’s good to stop and use an opportunity for creative imagination.

I find thinking time a positive benefit for taking my plans forward. It allows me to check where I’m up to in my journey to the outcome I want to create. Thinking about what I’ve done so far lets me measure my successes and consider my prototypes. Knowing where I’ve got to agains my ‘grand design’ I think about what else I need to do to show the Universe that I want my dreams to happen. Then I can think about some ‘what ifs’ in case I want to modify my choices or swap to another dream entirely. Imagining the possible and impossible outcomes perhaps I will decide to be bold and go for something I once thought was impossible. Perhaps the thinking time will give me a chance to see that everything is actually possible. If I use my willpower I can make my intention strong and unshakable. Then I can think about how to get my intention into reality.

We constantly underestimate the power of our minds. Yet every successful person has started with a strong intention, creative imagination and the determination to make their dreams happen. Ideas fail when what we forget to do is give ourselves the time to think on a regular basis. Time to check progress, adjust plans, restate our dreams and focus on being positive that it’s possible. Today I sat, sorting out old paperwork. My brain was thinking about how far I’d come. I noticed a document for a car I had 24 years ago. My first car that was all my own. Paid in full. Not shared with anyone else. There have been other cars since then but I remembered how good it felt to drive that car. I felt as if I had achieved my biggest dream back then having scraped together every penny I had for a 12 year old car. Thinking about it, feeling that feeling again, I ran through the new opportunities that are opening up for me. I’m determined to scrape together everything I have within myself so that I can keep on feeling that sense of achievement. My dreams are happening in the material world so I’m also going to keep having thinking time too.

I hope you find the time for thinking about your dreams. Make them really good ones. Hold the strongest intention you can for them to come true. Never waver. Believe in yourself. Keep taking the next step. And the next. And the next. Your dreams will be reality before you know it.

Day 206 of my blogging challenge.

Learning Wisdom

abe6e19bba1a62dbf425608451cf32d6During a quick trip into the local town I got a chance to use wifi and have a quick catch up with the rest of the world. I love seeing what is happening for others, what wisdom they have been learning and how they are getting on with their life journey. So I usually check in on my Twitter and Facebook feeds for the people I know, have taught or find inspiring. I also enjoy reading blogs and websites but being off grid has made that more of a challenge this week, lol. So it was lovely to have some time to check out what everyone has been learning this week.

As Confucius is quoted as pointing out we learn in several ways. I prefer reflection and experience. Or, much more my style of learning, reflecting on what I have just experienced. Not always the easiest way because in doing so you can have lots of prototypes thus repeating the experience over and over. Thought experiments (often used in theoretical physics) are a way of reflecting on options so you can grow by exploring your inner self. You can model ethical options, consider what feelings certain experiences might arouse or identify outcomes that work for you. We can also learn by imitation. Copying what those around us are doing we learn how to talk in social groups, how to play football or paint. Of course, following what someone else has done is much easier. All of the development work has been done for us, the prototypes have been tested and the glitches mostly ironed out. There are plenty of products that have taken an original idea and refined it to the profit of the person copying the inspiration.

When my Guides asked me to teach mediumship I was really reluctant. What did I know about connecting with Spirits except what I had learned from my own experience? They insisted I consider becoming a teacher. They explained that I had gathered most of my learning by experience and reflection. They knew that I would rather not copy other people because I’m keen to know ‘how’. Imitating someone else is the ‘how’ of what they do not the ‘how’ of what I do. Learning the wisdom of connecting my way certainly has been the right path. I am proud to be an evidence based medium striving for accuracy in what I give to people in their messages. I understand the ‘how’ of how I achieve that goal. I also understand what doesn’t work too.

It’s been my pleasure to offer some teaching support to quite a number of people over the last nine years. Some might agree that my teaching has been useful. I’m sure some won’t. Working your own way is the key to using your abilities to the best effect. Learning that lesson has been hard for a few who preferred to imitate rather than develop their style. There are no quick fixes in becoming good at anything you do in life. So on the face of it imitation does look easier. Unfortunately it is a way of hiding from your own intuitive inspirations. A dead end. Copying what I do (sometimes word for word) is flattering but I always ask my Guides to send inspiration to the person doing so. They are missing out on some fabulous learning. The fabric of my life is intertwined with new, interesting and challenging ideas and experiences. My Guides make sure to bring me options that will stretch me, develop me and make me think. I love it!

Have a look at what you are doing. Are you imitating someone else? Do you block the wonderful supply of ideas because you are too busy trying to ‘improve’ the ideas of others? Are you learning in an original, authentic and positive way about all of your abilities? I prefer to be myself, Annie Conboy, than a pale copy of someone else. How about you?

Day 194 of my blogging challenge. Written on 28th May 2016.

Mistake or prototype?

imageWe all make mistakes. We all do, say, think and believe things that we later determine were not the best thing for us. If we are not careful we spend a lot of time feeling that our mistakes are our failures. We can carry judgements about ourselves based on the mistakes we feel we have made. We can also carry judgments about others based on what we feel their mistakes have been too. A mistake implies a judgement anyway. That something is not the best it can be, or that has unforeseen or unexpected outcomes. So we try harder and harder to get it right, to do, say, think and feel the perfect thing in all circumstances. But we might be fooling ourselves by looking at our mistakes in this way.

I love to cook. There is a recipe to follow. Clear instructions that will result in a perfect cake if followed exactly. Except that some days the scales are a little off. Or my spoon measure is a touch too generous. Or my hand slips when I’m adding the liquid. Or the oven isn’t at exactly the right heat. Does one degree less hot really make a difference? Of course, the best chefs will say any time you go off plan you risk baking something less than perfect. And it’s true. Many times my cakes have been too flat, solid, burnt or misshaped. The local birds have had plenty of crumbs as a treat. Sometimes, and it is getting better with practice, they are light brown circles of heavenly taste. These kind of cakes rarely last more than a day!

Even my mistake cakes have a value, if not for me then for the birds, as making cake disasters lets me work out the very best way to produce something excellent to eat. And the truth is that our mistakes all have a value. They help us work out what hasn’t worked. Mistakes give us clues to the way to do things better for ourselves and others. I like to look at my mistakes as prototypes. Working models of ways in which I can interact with myself and the world. A prototype isn’t going to be right first time. It’s not expected to be. It’s the idea made solid and therefore may have to be tweaked again and again until it is a reliable working whole. Prototypes also show us what is working well and how we might make it work even better. After all, life is never black and white. It’s much more a mixture of grey areas. Going off plan, leaving the recipe behind, might be the only way to develop the prototype at this time.

To help me remember that I’m busy testing prototypes (instead of making mistakes) I focus on practicing unconditional forgiveness. I’m learning to forgive myself for the cakes that came out of the oven scorched. Or the cakes that came out half baked. I’m also applying unconditional forgiveness to anyone else who is involved in my cake making. The baker who wrote such a complicated recipe. The person who phoned just as I should have taken the cake out of the oven & made me forget. Or the person who said they really liked banana cake and then refused a slice of the cake I’d made just for them. I forgive myself for my Marie Antoinette queen bee moments of muttering under my breath ‘let them eat cake!’ The more mistakes I make the more I can practice unconditional forgiveness. How clever is that?

My Guides are big on our unconditional love for ourselves and others leading to unconditional forgiveness. They like the way that energy carries us forward to unconditional gratitude and finally the willingness to serve unconditionally. Sometimes they remind me of that old saying from the Bible ‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.’ They’re not hot on the word sin. They explain this saying to me this way: if you have never made a mistake then perhaps (and it’s a hesitant perhaps) you can argue that you are in a position to be able to judge others. But think very hard. Then think harder. Mistakes are a natural part of life. Prototypes are your way of being. Before you can legitimately judge others you have to be prepared to judge yourself. Do you wish to be so harsh on yourself that it denies you the ability to love all of yourself? Hopefully the answer is that you don’t really want to be harsh on yourself. Then why do you wish to be so harsh on others? Find the forgiveness for yourself and others. Make a revised prototype and try again.

There is something precious about mistakes. They might bring us or others pain. There might be challenging consequences. Yet each time we create a solution or try to do something differently we are acknowledging that we have grown. We are refining our way of living as a human being. If we are fortunate we are also uncovering our Spirit within. If we look back at our prototypes perhaps what has emerged as a result is a more loving, forgiving, spiritual person that we imagined possible. That person is more closely who we are – our authentic self, tested in experience and growing in wisdom. So celebrate your mistakes. They are allowing you to discover who you are. Design the next prototype and test that model too.

Day 112 of my blogging challenge.